LOVESSsSsS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

When love means war��
Every couple in love has their differences. God made each and everyone of us special and unique. It�� absolutely normal for 2 people who are totally in love with each other to fight and argue. Just to prove they are right and also to defend their pride (especially guys with lots of ego). What would you do if sensitive issue rise and cause a huge fight??? Do you just smile and walk away?? Or you start losing your head and yell at the top of your voice defending what�� right in your eyes?? That�� when sparks fly and the declaration of war between you and your partner. It is no doubt that I myself have pass through these hard moments in life proving I�� right and he�� wrong while he is trying to prove he is right and I am wrong��The fight goes on and there�� tears and yelling over the phones and sms-es��� but before you start throwing tantrums, read on��.

Fight factor 1:

Money
It�� not all times that the lack of money causes fights but too much of it. Girls would argue that their bf uses thousands on his car but they tend to make a comment on spending just RM 200 on her gf�� hair or clothes.

How to deal?
It is much easier by setting aside allowances for personal spendings, for gf, for your precious car and etc. Wouldn�� it be easier rather than arguing just to get your partner to pay the bill?

Fight factor 2:

Bad habits
Maybe your partner eats with his hands and just wipes it on his shirt or throws his dirty clothes back in the closet after wearing it. Or for girls they tend to throw tantrums in the middle of the movie just because you wouldn�� pass the pop corn to her or just because you didn�� get her that pretty dress. Eventually this little itsy bitsy things crawl under your skin, and soon it gets personal.

How to deal?
Never ever say never to your lovely partner. Imagine him/her yelling to you: ��ou never listen to me, don�� you?��whoa, that�� the end of one happy couple I guess. Because this usually stops logical discussion, well, it�� like adding oil into a burning forest. So instead of that, why don�� you guys talk it through?? Make him understand how his/her bad habits makes you feel embarrass, turn the tables, BE SENSITIVE!! Say things that won�� offend your partner. THINK BEFORE YOU TALK!!

Fight factor 3:

Nag nag nag nag nag nag~! GGRrrrrrrrr~!
Take just one minute thinking of your partner complaining to you about every single thing on earth that bugs him/her including you!! Well, guys tend to pull away when you complain, the more you complain the more he pulls away. Now let me show you some research conducted by Ohio State University. It is said that men tend to withdraw to criticisms and prefer to not talk. Hmm��. that pushes the angry button in most of the girls�� ��hy is he ignoring me, can�� he just say something?? ##$@%$#%%#$@��-.-

How to deal?
Well, next time you want to complain, choose the right time. Ask before you blab everything out. ��Em, you see, I have something bugging me and I need your opinion. Is now a good time to talk about it??��Well, doesn�� that sound better?? 1 point for being considerable~! HOORAY~!

Fight factor 4:

��ou just don�� spend enough time with me!��Hmm��. Don�� that sounds familiar?? At the early stage of a very happy couple, he/she would just skip his meal for one whole day just to see you�� Aaaaaaawwwwwwwww��. But now? He would say all sorts of excuses to be late for 1 hour on your date and etc.

How to deal?
Don�� over burden your partner with all your needs. There must be things that you could do rather than seeing him 24/7. Just before he steps into your life, there must be other things that are fun and time wasting. Go shopping, go chit chatting, go spend some time with your family. But, leave some time for you and him. Don�� go flirting like you do when you are single, don�� go finding a second gf/bf�� Imagine how much trouble you��l get after that��Be loyal.

Fight factor 5:

He says he��l call in 5 minutes time, but he didn��. In some cases, sms-es too matter much to most girls and also guys.
You are sitting there holding on to your phone wondering why isn�� it ringing yet. Well, he is having his time onlining, dota-ing etc. 5 minutes- Oh maybe he went to the toilet���.. 10 minutes- Doing some big business inside toilet I guess�� 15 minutes- He��l call any minute from now��� 20 minutes- Where is he?? Why isn�� he calling?? His watch stop ticking??? 1 hour- %!#$@^#$@%$^!!!!!!!! ����� In the end, he forgets to call after all. -.-���.

How to deal?
Well, that�� very frustrating is it?? Want to give him your piece of mind right now?? GO AHEAD!!! Nah, just kidding. Take a bathe, cool down first. Don�� start throwing your phone, step on your ignition and speed to his house then slam the door down�� Cool off and communicate. Maybe he has an emergency ��There must be an explanation. If not, go ahead let him feel the bee�� sting *bleah*


Conclusion

It�� hard to find a person who loves you and you love him too��Its fate and love that brings 2 people together while trust and understanding holds them together. Is it true that fate bring couple together, but if the couple never appreciate this relationship, it is no point to be together, just like what u say, Is hard to find someone who loves you and you loves him too, so find someone that he love u more than u love him, u will feel much more happy. Trust me my dear��Treasure the one who love u and, you have today or if not you may regret one day��.

(Inspired by Female magazine- November issue
Title: When love is a battlefield)




Modified and rewritten by
Agnes Lee ( that's her photo)